NLP presuppositions are extremely useful as a guide to the thinking behind NLP.
There are many NLP Presuppositions; below you will find some of the best-known NLP pre-suppositions to help get you started.
If you go on doing what you're doing now you are very likely to go on getting the same results as you are getting now
This pre-supposition is saying that we are each responsible for our own lives. Even though we cant change what happens in the world around us we can control how we respond to these events. When we change the way we respond, we will change the result we get.
If you want something different you must do something different, and keep varying your behaviour until you get the result that you want
Here we learn that there is a solution to every situation if you're prepared to keeping on looking until you find it.
You cannot not communicate
This pre-supposition says that we are always communicating, by what we do or don't say, and by non-verbal signals. People instantly make opinions on others by the way that person stands/walks-This is part of non-verbal communication
The meaning of your communication is the response that you get
People will respond to what they think you mean, which may be an accurate or inaccurate interpretation of your intended meaning. We need to talk to people rather then at people. By recognising people’s responses we can change our communication to suit the individual.
The map is not the territory
We are always slightly separated from 'reality'. We draw maps, but the map is not actually the place it depicts and we need to be responsive to what is actually happening around us rather than complaining that things aren't as they should be.
If one person can do something, anyone else can learn to do it
We can model people who are excellent in an activity in such a way as to identify what they do that gives them such a positive outcomes. Once we identify the differences and the systems they use we can communicate this to other people who can then learn to perform with a similar level of skill and excellence.
There is no such thing as failure, only feedback
When something doesn't go as we planned, some people will see this as failure. If we see the situation as feedback rather than failure, we start to change from a negative to positive state. Instead of feeling bad we feel free to form a new plan of action and try again, asking ourselves what can I learn from my last experience.
Do you want to add any more NLP presuppositions? E-mail nlppracticegroup@gmail.com and we will add them to the blog
Friday 30 October 2009
Sunday 25 October 2009
Being Bullied?
I learnt this technique whilst on my NLP practitioners course and recently successfully used it with a client:
Force Field
My client a teenager, was often bullied at school, being called a wide range of names and insults, this has effected her confidence as she became older and still hears the bullies name calling in her head.
I put my client in a positive state and then told her I had a magical invisible box, as soon as she opens this box a force field will jump out, as it did I asked her to describe it to me (often this is a force-field suit or tube) this time it was a tube shape that surround her body and lifted above her head.
I then asked the client to describe the force field, asking what colour it is, what sound it makes, etc. from this she stepped out of the force field leaving all positiveness in the force field and broke state. I told when she is in the force field, is she moves the force field will move with her.
I put put her in and out of the force field 3 times anchoring positive feelings into the force field.
I then asked the client to recall a time someone called her names and asked her again to step into the force field and feel the positive feelings, see and hear the hum of the force field. From this she said the name calling already felt less intense.
Instead of hearing the words, I asked her to visualise the words coming towards her, and asked her to describe it to me; she seen big black capital letters. we slowed the words down and told her that as they reach the force field something amazing will happen and they wont be able to enter the force field, I ask what would happen as they hit the force field wall. In this case she said the words smashed, like glass and fell to the floor. we completed this step 3 more times, each time before she seen the words coming towards her, I reminded her of the power of the force field and the positive feelings she felt in the force field.
On the second and third time I completed this step, I got the client to make a "smashing" sound as the letters hit the force field.
The client said she felt really confident and positive in the force field and when we completed a future vision, to see how she would act/feel if someone in the future called her names, she said she didn't feel like the words effected her at all.
Do you have any success stories you would like to add to the blog? send them on an e-mail nlppracticegroup@gmail.com
Force Field
My client a teenager, was often bullied at school, being called a wide range of names and insults, this has effected her confidence as she became older and still hears the bullies name calling in her head.
I put my client in a positive state and then told her I had a magical invisible box, as soon as she opens this box a force field will jump out, as it did I asked her to describe it to me (often this is a force-field suit or tube) this time it was a tube shape that surround her body and lifted above her head.
I then asked the client to describe the force field, asking what colour it is, what sound it makes, etc. from this she stepped out of the force field leaving all positiveness in the force field and broke state. I told when she is in the force field, is she moves the force field will move with her.
I put put her in and out of the force field 3 times anchoring positive feelings into the force field.
I then asked the client to recall a time someone called her names and asked her again to step into the force field and feel the positive feelings, see and hear the hum of the force field. From this she said the name calling already felt less intense.
Instead of hearing the words, I asked her to visualise the words coming towards her, and asked her to describe it to me; she seen big black capital letters. we slowed the words down and told her that as they reach the force field something amazing will happen and they wont be able to enter the force field, I ask what would happen as they hit the force field wall. In this case she said the words smashed, like glass and fell to the floor. we completed this step 3 more times, each time before she seen the words coming towards her, I reminded her of the power of the force field and the positive feelings she felt in the force field.
On the second and third time I completed this step, I got the client to make a "smashing" sound as the letters hit the force field.
The client said she felt really confident and positive in the force field and when we completed a future vision, to see how she would act/feel if someone in the future called her names, she said she didn't feel like the words effected her at all.
Do you have any success stories you would like to add to the blog? send them on an e-mail nlppracticegroup@gmail.com
Saturday 17 October 2009
The Little Book of Inspirational Teaching activities
David Hodgson, who brought you "The Buzz Book" has released a new book; The Little Book of Inspirational Teaching Activities.
With a collection of NLP-based activities developed to use with students to spice up lessons, learning and life in general. This a great book of activities to use as ice-breakers and to increase group motivation.
I have personally used a wide range of the techniques covered in this book and find them easy to follow and effective.
I have used them with a mixture of adults and youth's and always see a positive response
To have a preview into the book please click this link:
Click this link to view and order this book
With a collection of NLP-based activities developed to use with students to spice up lessons, learning and life in general. This a great book of activities to use as ice-breakers and to increase group motivation.
I have personally used a wide range of the techniques covered in this book and find them easy to follow and effective.
I have used them with a mixture of adults and youth's and always see a positive response
To have a preview into the book please click this link:
Click this link to view and order this book
The Next NLP Practice Group Session
Hi all
The next NLP Practice Group session will be held on Wednesday 11 November at 6:30, to secure your place please e-mail nlppracticegroup@gmail.com
So far we have already had request to practice Time lines, Meta Model and Perceptual Positions.
Do you have a technique you would like to practice? Send us an e-mail with your suggested techniques, we will practice the techniques with the most request.
We look forward to seeing you all at the next practice group session
Chris and Sandie
The next NLP Practice Group session will be held on Wednesday 11 November at 6:30, to secure your place please e-mail nlppracticegroup@gmail.com
So far we have already had request to practice Time lines, Meta Model and Perceptual Positions.
Do you have a technique you would like to practice? Send us an e-mail with your suggested techniques, we will practice the techniques with the most request.
We look forward to seeing you all at the next practice group session
Chris and Sandie
Fast Phobia Cure
During our last NLP Practice Group session we practiced the Fast Phobia Cure:
The fast phobia cure allows a client to process an unpleasant memory or a phobic response so that they change the order of the experience in their brain in such a way that it is eliminated and no more fear exists.
The fast phobia cure allows the client to re-experience a trauma or phobia without experiencing the emotional content of the event or having to face up to the trigger that would normally set off the phobic response.
You should ensure that you work in a comfortable, relaxed environment with no distractions, where the client will know themselves to be completely safe in the presence of the practitioner who can help them to be grounded and to overcome their phobia.
The client will examine an experience whilst they are doubly dissociated from the memory, creating a separation between them (in the now) and the emotions of a trauma or a phobic response in the past. In this particular exercise, the double dissociation is done through having the client watch themselves in a cinema (double dissociation).
Fast Phobia Cure:
1. Identify when you have a reoccurring phobic response or a traumatic or unpleasant memory that you wish to overcome.
2. Remember that you were safe before and are safe after the unpleasant experience.
3. Imagine yourself sitting in an empty cinema auditorium, sitting comfortably watching yourself on a small, black-and-white screen.
4. Now imagine floating out of the you that is sitting in the cinema seat and into the projection booth.
5. You can now see yourself in the projection booth, watching yourself in the seat, watching the film of you on the screen.
6. Run the film in black and white, on the very small compact screen, starting before you experience the memory you wish to overcome and running it through until after the experience when you were safe again.
7. Now freeze the film or turn the screen completely white.
8. Float out of the projection booth, out of the seat, and into the end of the film.
9. Run the film backwards very quickly, in a matter of a second or two, in full colour, as if you are experiencing the film, right back to the beginning, when you were safe.
10. You can now repeat steps 8 and 9 until you are comfortable with the experience.
11. Now go into the future and test an imaginary time when you might have experienced the phobic response.
The fast phobia cure allows a client to process an unpleasant memory or a phobic response so that they change the order of the experience in their brain in such a way that it is eliminated and no more fear exists.
The fast phobia cure allows the client to re-experience a trauma or phobia without experiencing the emotional content of the event or having to face up to the trigger that would normally set off the phobic response.
You should ensure that you work in a comfortable, relaxed environment with no distractions, where the client will know themselves to be completely safe in the presence of the practitioner who can help them to be grounded and to overcome their phobia.
The client will examine an experience whilst they are doubly dissociated from the memory, creating a separation between them (in the now) and the emotions of a trauma or a phobic response in the past. In this particular exercise, the double dissociation is done through having the client watch themselves in a cinema (double dissociation).
Fast Phobia Cure:
1. Identify when you have a reoccurring phobic response or a traumatic or unpleasant memory that you wish to overcome.
2. Remember that you were safe before and are safe after the unpleasant experience.
3. Imagine yourself sitting in an empty cinema auditorium, sitting comfortably watching yourself on a small, black-and-white screen.
4. Now imagine floating out of the you that is sitting in the cinema seat and into the projection booth.
5. You can now see yourself in the projection booth, watching yourself in the seat, watching the film of you on the screen.
6. Run the film in black and white, on the very small compact screen, starting before you experience the memory you wish to overcome and running it through until after the experience when you were safe again.
7. Now freeze the film or turn the screen completely white.
8. Float out of the projection booth, out of the seat, and into the end of the film.
9. Run the film backwards very quickly, in a matter of a second or two, in full colour, as if you are experiencing the film, right back to the beginning, when you were safe.
10. You can now repeat steps 8 and 9 until you are comfortable with the experience.
11. Now go into the future and test an imaginary time when you might have experienced the phobic response.
Thursday 8 October 2009
The Miracle Question-Solution Focus
Like you, i am always interest in learning a wide verity of techniques to help others and myself move forward. I recently attended a course on Solution Focused Therapy and wanted to share one of their popular techniques The Miracle Question that i have successfully used with clients, with you.
Solution focused brief therapy (SFBT), often referred to as 'solution focused therapy' or 'brief therapy', focuses on what clients want to achieve rather than on the problems that made them to look for help. SFBT approach does not focus on the past, instead, focuses on the present and future.
The Miracle Question The miracle question is a method of questioning that a coach or therapist, uses to aid the client to envision how the future will be different when the problem is no longer present. Also, this may help to establish goals.
A traditional version of the miracle question would go like this:
"Suppose our meeting is over, you go home, do whatever you planned to do for the rest of the day. And then, some time in the evening, you get tired and go to sleep. And in the middle of the night, when you are fast asleep, a miracle happens and all the problems that brought you here today are solved just like that. But since the miracle happened over night nobody is telling you that the miracle happened. When you wake up the next morning, how are you going to start discovering that the miracle happened? ... Ask, what else are you going to notice? What else?"
Whilst you can easily follow the script, the miracle question requires considerable skill to ask well. The question must be asked slowly with close attention to the person's non-verbal communication to ensure that the pace matches the person's ability to follow the question.
Clients will often respond "I don't know." to the Miracle Question. Often if you leave a respectful silence to give the person time to fully absorb the question, clients will then give an answer or you can ask "if you did know..."
Often practitioners will follow this up with Scaling questions, this way the miracle question is not so much a question as a series of questions.
There are many different versions of the miracle question depending on the context and the client you can find lots of examples on the Internet
In a specific situation, the practitioner may ask,
"If you woke up tomorrow, and a miracle happened so that you no longer easily lost your temper, what would you see differently?" What would the first signs be that the miracle occurred?"
The client (a child) may respond by saying,
"I would not get upset when somebody calls me names."
The counselor wants the client to develop positive goals, or what they will do, rather than what they will not do--to better ensure success. So, the counselor may ask the client, "What will you be doing instead when someone calls you names?"
If you have had any success using this technique please leave a comment for others to share your good practice
Solution focused brief therapy (SFBT), often referred to as 'solution focused therapy' or 'brief therapy', focuses on what clients want to achieve rather than on the problems that made them to look for help. SFBT approach does not focus on the past, instead, focuses on the present and future.
The Miracle Question The miracle question is a method of questioning that a coach or therapist, uses to aid the client to envision how the future will be different when the problem is no longer present. Also, this may help to establish goals.
A traditional version of the miracle question would go like this:
"Suppose our meeting is over, you go home, do whatever you planned to do for the rest of the day. And then, some time in the evening, you get tired and go to sleep. And in the middle of the night, when you are fast asleep, a miracle happens and all the problems that brought you here today are solved just like that. But since the miracle happened over night nobody is telling you that the miracle happened. When you wake up the next morning, how are you going to start discovering that the miracle happened? ... Ask, what else are you going to notice? What else?"
Whilst you can easily follow the script, the miracle question requires considerable skill to ask well. The question must be asked slowly with close attention to the person's non-verbal communication to ensure that the pace matches the person's ability to follow the question.
Clients will often respond "I don't know." to the Miracle Question. Often if you leave a respectful silence to give the person time to fully absorb the question, clients will then give an answer or you can ask "if you did know..."
Often practitioners will follow this up with Scaling questions, this way the miracle question is not so much a question as a series of questions.
There are many different versions of the miracle question depending on the context and the client you can find lots of examples on the Internet
In a specific situation, the practitioner may ask,
"If you woke up tomorrow, and a miracle happened so that you no longer easily lost your temper, what would you see differently?" What would the first signs be that the miracle occurred?"
The client (a child) may respond by saying,
"I would not get upset when somebody calls me names."
The counselor wants the client to develop positive goals, or what they will do, rather than what they will not do--to better ensure success. So, the counselor may ask the client, "What will you be doing instead when someone calls you names?"
If you have had any success using this technique please leave a comment for others to share your good practice
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