Manchester NLP Practice Group 2014
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Chris Delaney
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Tuesday, 2 September 2014
Thursday, 23 August 2012
Tuesday, 3 January 2012
Anthony Robbins Here in the UK
Wow - Anthony Robbins is coming to the UK to give a 4 day presentation, during the 4 day talk you will get the chance to take part in the famous fire walk and understand how to break through to your new life.
You will never experience anything like this again, so to find out more click this link - Anthony Robbins 4 day seminar
We look forward to seeing you there
You will never experience anything like this again, so to find out more click this link - Anthony Robbins 4 day seminar
We look forward to seeing you there
Friday, 14 October 2011
Fast Phobia Cure
The Fast Phobia cure allows a client to process an unpleasant memory or a phobic response so that they change the order of the experience in their brain in such a way that it is eliminated and no more fear exists.
The fast phobia cure allows the client to re-experience a trauma or phobia without experiencing the emotional content of the event or having to face up to the trigger that would normally set off the phobic response.
You should ensure that you work in a comfortable, relaxed environment with no distractions, where the client will know themselves to be completely safe in the presence of the practitioner who can help them to be grounded and to overcome their phobia.
The client will examine an experience whilst they are doubly dissociated from the memory, creating a separation between them (in the now) and the emotions of a trauma or a phobic response in the past. In this particular exercise, the double dissociation is done through having the client watch themselves in a cinema (double dissociation).
Please check this technique out on YouTube if you have any problems understanding how to use it. We will upload a video clip to our facebook page.
The Fast Phobia Cure:
1. Identify when you have a reoccurring phobic response or a traumatic or unpleasant memory that you wish to overcome.
2. Remember that you were safe before and are safe after the unpleasant experience.
3. Imagine yourself sitting in an empty cinema auditorium, sitting comfortably watching yourself on a small, black-and-white screen.
4. Now imagine floating out of the you that is sitting in the cinema seat and into the projection booth.
5. You can now see yourself in the projection booth, watching yourself in the seat, watching the film of you on the screen.
6. Run the film in black and white, on the very small compact screen, starting before you experience the memory you wish to overcome and running it through until after the experience when you were safe again.
7. Now freeze the film or turn the screen completely white.
8. Float out of the projection booth, out of the seat, and into the end of the film.
9. Run the film backwards very quickly, in a matter of a second or two, in full colour, as if you are experiencing the film, right back to the beginning, when you were safe.
10. You can now repeat steps 8 and 9 until you are comfortable with the experience.
11. Now go into the future and test an imaginary time when you might have experienced the phobic response. How does it make you feel?
12. If necessary, repeat the process.
The fast phobia cure allows the client to re-experience a trauma or phobia without experiencing the emotional content of the event or having to face up to the trigger that would normally set off the phobic response.
You should ensure that you work in a comfortable, relaxed environment with no distractions, where the client will know themselves to be completely safe in the presence of the practitioner who can help them to be grounded and to overcome their phobia.
The client will examine an experience whilst they are doubly dissociated from the memory, creating a separation between them (in the now) and the emotions of a trauma or a phobic response in the past. In this particular exercise, the double dissociation is done through having the client watch themselves in a cinema (double dissociation).
Please check this technique out on YouTube if you have any problems understanding how to use it. We will upload a video clip to our facebook page.
The Fast Phobia Cure:
1. Identify when you have a reoccurring phobic response or a traumatic or unpleasant memory that you wish to overcome.
2. Remember that you were safe before and are safe after the unpleasant experience.
3. Imagine yourself sitting in an empty cinema auditorium, sitting comfortably watching yourself on a small, black-and-white screen.
4. Now imagine floating out of the you that is sitting in the cinema seat and into the projection booth.
5. You can now see yourself in the projection booth, watching yourself in the seat, watching the film of you on the screen.
6. Run the film in black and white, on the very small compact screen, starting before you experience the memory you wish to overcome and running it through until after the experience when you were safe again.
7. Now freeze the film or turn the screen completely white.
8. Float out of the projection booth, out of the seat, and into the end of the film.
9. Run the film backwards very quickly, in a matter of a second or two, in full colour, as if you are experiencing the film, right back to the beginning, when you were safe.
10. You can now repeat steps 8 and 9 until you are comfortable with the experience.
11. Now go into the future and test an imaginary time when you might have experienced the phobic response. How does it make you feel?
12. If necessary, repeat the process.
Tuesday, 12 April 2011
Slight of Mouth Patterns (SOMP)
SOMP can be used to reframe a persons belief system when the belief that they hold no longer serves them well. There are 14 SOMP patterns which can be used in conversation to help give you a choice of new and more helpful perspectives. SOMP doesn’t always resolve the problem but helps soften up the problem to make changes easier. Some SOMP patterns can seem harsh or callous, so always get into rapport and consider which patterns are approriate and what you think will be most helpful.
Beliefs
Beliefs define the relationship between values and their causes, indicators and consequences. Beliefs are typically expressed in the form of a
Complex equivalence (A “equals”, “is, “is equivalent to” or “means” B)
Cause-effect (A “causes (because)”, “makes”, “leads to”, “produces”, “results in” B).
Slight of Mouth patterns work well for belief change, when a client uses a complex equivalent or cause-effect to express their belief.
Ask a client for a belief
Example: I can’t lose weight.
Cartesian Questions – for your client to word their belief as a cause and effect or complex equivalence
Client: I can’t lose weight because I don’t have willpower (cause and effect)
SOMP
Redefine; change the representation of the belief
1. What other meaning could the equation have?
Example: you can eat healthier
Consequence; consequences that can change beliefs
What will happen to them if they continue to think this way?
Example: the longer you leave it the less willpower you will have
Intention; what is the positive intention?
1. Why are they saying this?
2. What is the secondary gain?
3. What are they trying to get?
Example: it can be scary stopping a habit you have had for a while and we both agree you want to look great at your wedding
Chunk Down; specific elements
1. What specifically?
2. What are examples of this?
3. What are parts of this?
Example: what will give you the will power
Chunk Up; generalisations
1. For what purpose?
2. What's important about this?
3. Exaggerate.
Example: are you saying that you want to stay overweight?
Counter Example; exceptions that challenge generalization
1. Invert the belief.
2. Make into a universal statement or question
3. A causes B, not B causes not A.
Example: we have all met people who say they can’t lose weight and then do
Another Outcome; propose a different outcome
What is another outcome you could shift to?
Example: the issue isn’t that willpower can win, it’s about you giving dieting a chance
Metaphor/Analogy; Use an analogy or metaphor that challenges the generalization defined by the belief
What story will relate to their belief?
Tell a metaphor or story about the solution.
Example: I had adopted an overweight dog once that I believed would never lose weight, we started by taking small steps going for 5 minute walks until we will worked up to 1 hour walks
Apply to Self; use key aspects of the belief to change the belief
Don't think about it; just use the word back on itself.
Example: you can’t lose weight until you believe you have the willpower to lose weight
Hierarchy of Criteria (Values) Re-assess the belief based on a more important criterion.
1. What are higher criteria (values)?
2. Apply current criterion (value) to current sentence.
Example: isn’t it more important to think about your health then your weight
Change Frame Size; Re-evaluate the implication of the belief in the context of a longer (or shorter) time frame, a larger number of people (or from an individual point of view) or a bigger or smaller perspective.
1. Something (larger or smaller) they haven't noticed.
2. Different frame, same behavior.
3. Chunk up to Universal Quantifier.
Example: losing weight will give you a longer life..to spend with your grandchildren
Meta Frame; change the basis of the belief
How is it possible they could believe that?
Example: you can’t lose weight but can’t you eat less food each day?
Model of the World; look at the belief from a different perspective
1. Switch Referential Index.
2. Is this true in everyone's Model of the World?
Example: beating will power is telling yourself you can do it
Reality Strategy; Re-assess the belief based on the fact that beliefs are based on specific perceptions
1. How do they represent that belief?
2. How do they/you know if it's not true?
3. Apply current criterion (value) to current sentence.
Example: how do you know will power not laziness is stopping you from losing weight?
SOMP can be used to reframe a persons belief system when the belief that they hold no longer serves them well. There are 14 SOMP patterns which can be used in conversation to help give you a choice of new and more helpful perspectives. SOMP doesn’t always resolve the problem but helps soften up the problem to make changes easier. Some SOMP patterns can seem harsh or callous, so always get into rapport and consider which patterns are approriate and what you think will be most helpful.
Beliefs
Beliefs define the relationship between values and their causes, indicators and consequences. Beliefs are typically expressed in the form of a
Complex equivalence (A “equals”, “is, “is equivalent to” or “means” B)
Cause-effect (A “causes (because)”, “makes”, “leads to”, “produces”, “results in” B).
Slight of Mouth patterns work well for belief change, when a client uses a complex equivalent or cause-effect to express their belief.
Ask a client for a belief
Example: I can’t lose weight.
Cartesian Questions – for your client to word their belief as a cause and effect or complex equivalence
- What would happen if you did?
- · What would happen if you didn’t?
- · What wouldn’t happen if you did?
- · What wouldn’t happen if you didn’t?
Client: I can’t lose weight because I don’t have willpower (cause and effect)
SOMP
Redefine; change the representation of the belief
1. What other meaning could the equation have?
Example: you can eat healthier
Consequence; consequences that can change beliefs
What will happen to them if they continue to think this way?
Example: the longer you leave it the less willpower you will have
Intention; what is the positive intention?
1. Why are they saying this?
2. What is the secondary gain?
3. What are they trying to get?
Example: it can be scary stopping a habit you have had for a while and we both agree you want to look great at your wedding
Chunk Down; specific elements
1. What specifically?
2. What are examples of this?
3. What are parts of this?
Example: what will give you the will power
Chunk Up; generalisations
1. For what purpose?
2. What's important about this?
3. Exaggerate.
Example: are you saying that you want to stay overweight?
Counter Example; exceptions that challenge generalization
1. Invert the belief.
2. Make into a universal statement or question
3. A causes B, not B causes not A.
Example: we have all met people who say they can’t lose weight and then do
Another Outcome; propose a different outcome
What is another outcome you could shift to?
Example: the issue isn’t that willpower can win, it’s about you giving dieting a chance
Metaphor/Analogy; Use an analogy or metaphor that challenges the generalization defined by the belief
What story will relate to their belief?
Tell a metaphor or story about the solution.
Example: I had adopted an overweight dog once that I believed would never lose weight, we started by taking small steps going for 5 minute walks until we will worked up to 1 hour walks
Apply to Self; use key aspects of the belief to change the belief
Don't think about it; just use the word back on itself.
Example: you can’t lose weight until you believe you have the willpower to lose weight
Hierarchy of Criteria (Values) Re-assess the belief based on a more important criterion.
1. What are higher criteria (values)?
2. Apply current criterion (value) to current sentence.
Example: isn’t it more important to think about your health then your weight
Change Frame Size; Re-evaluate the implication of the belief in the context of a longer (or shorter) time frame, a larger number of people (or from an individual point of view) or a bigger or smaller perspective.
1. Something (larger or smaller) they haven't noticed.
2. Different frame, same behavior.
3. Chunk up to Universal Quantifier.
Example: losing weight will give you a longer life..to spend with your grandchildren
Meta Frame; change the basis of the belief
How is it possible they could believe that?
Example: you can’t lose weight but can’t you eat less food each day?
Model of the World; look at the belief from a different perspective
1. Switch Referential Index.
2. Is this true in everyone's Model of the World?
Example: beating will power is telling yourself you can do it
Reality Strategy; Re-assess the belief based on the fact that beliefs are based on specific perceptions
1. How do they represent that belief?
2. How do they/you know if it's not true?
3. Apply current criterion (value) to current sentence.
Example: how do you know will power not laziness is stopping you from losing weight?
Tuesday, 8 March 2011
Working with Anchors
Our memories are stored as assocuations with our senses. Smells, sites and sounds are great anchors to to times and events. For example, you smell a particular perfume and you instantly remind you of your first date; you see a photograph in a frame of you and a friend on holiday and you are instantly reminded of how happy you felt at the time. Or if you've ever over-indulged on a particular drink or food in the past, now just the site of it can be enough to make you feel instantly neauseous.
In this month practice group we shall be experimenting with anchors. We shall be creating resourceful anchors and collapsing unhelpful anchors.
Resourceful Anchors
1. Think of a situation when you would like to feel more resourceful
2. Choose a resource (state) that you would like to have
3. Recall a time that you had the resource; relive this experience, step into the body of the you then, see things from your eyes, what can you see? What can you hear? How do you feel?
4. Break state
5. Pick three anchors (kinaesthetic, auditory, visual, olfactory, gustatory)
6. Again re-call the past event when you had the resource, when you feel you are in the highest posible state add in the three anchors ( as an example, as the state comes to the peak ask the client to say “confident” for a confident state - auditory, to clench their hand for a kineasthetic anchor, etc. )
7. Break state
8. Repeat step 6 for all anchors until they are fully embedded
9. Test the anchor by firing the state using one of the anchors;
Imagine a time in the future when you will need the resourceful state, imagine firing the anchor
Use sliding scales to monitor the power of the anchored state change.
Stacking Anchors
1. Pick several positive states; confidence, excitement, loving, joyous, powerful, etc.
2. Pick a body kinaesthetic anchor such as squeezing your finger and thumb together or clapping your hands or in the style of Anthony Robbins, making a fist.
3. Relive a past experience for each one of the positive states. When at the highest point add that feeling to your body anchor.
4. Complete step three for each individial state stacking up the feeling associated with the same anchor.
Chaining Anchors
Useful for when someone feels like it is a big step from one emotion to another, when they need the anchor breaking up into smaller steps for example 'fear to confidence', might be 'fear, concern, anticipation, prepared, confidence'
1. Find out the current state and the future state desired
2. Work out what the in-between states might be
3. Anchor each state on different parts of the clients body (Fear – finger, concern –wrist, prapared – elbow, etc
4. Create and test each anchor in turn
5. Use the first anchor to trigger the second anchor and so on creating a chain reaction to the positive state
6. Repeat several times until the anchor is automatic
Collapsing anchors
If two states are anchored and fired simultaneously, creating confusion and thus a new state is created. The negative state will collapse making way for a positive state.
1. Identify the negative state to be collapsed. Try and choose a specific memory which causes you to respond negatively.
2. Next, choose the positive state you would like to install instead. Again, choose a specific time you have been in this state, or for best results, choose a few examples of a time you have been in this state, and anchor them all together
Your positive state must be stronger than the negative state – otherwise this technique won’t work
3. First, anchor the negative state, by rubbing the thumb and finger of your left hand together whilst you relive the memory. Make sure that you are fully associated when you do this – which means seeing the memory through your own eyes, feeling what you felt, and hearing what you heard. Anchor this memory as it is. Don’t make the feelings any more or less intense. Do this just once. Release the anchor at the peak of the emotion.
4. Break state by doing something else for 30 seconds.
5. Test your anchor by rubbing your thumb and finger together. If the anchor has worked, you’ll feel the negative state come back.
6. Break state again
7. Anchor the positive state. Start to relive the positive memory by associating into it, and seeing what you saw, hearing what you heard, and feeling what you felt. Make the picture bigger, brighter, more colourful and more vivid. Pull it closer towards you and overcome yourself with all these positive emotions.
8. Anchor the positive state by rubbing the thumb and finger of your right hand together whilst you’re feeling all the positive emotions (using different hands uses the different hemispheres of the brain, making it easier to integrate your states). Release the anchor when the emotion is at its peak.
9. Break state for 30 seconds, and then repeat the previous steps by anchoring a different memory of the same positive emotion or the same memory again. Use the same thumb / finger combo to anchor. Do this 2-3 more times.
10. Break state again, and then test your positive anchor.
11. To collapse your anchor, fire off the positive and negative anchors at the same time, by rubbing the thumbs and fingers of both hands together.
12. As you keep holding the anchors, however, you’ll soon break clear of all negative feelings, and start to feel the full power of the positive emotions. When you feel that the anchors have collapsed – i.e. you feel awesome – let go of the negative anchor, whilst keeping hold of the positive anchor for another 5-10 seconds.
13. Test and “future pace” the effectiveness of the collapsing anchors technique by imagining a time in the future when you’ll have to encounter the thing that made you feel negative before. If this has worked, you will feel more positive
In this month practice group we shall be experimenting with anchors. We shall be creating resourceful anchors and collapsing unhelpful anchors.
Resourceful Anchors
1. Think of a situation when you would like to feel more resourceful
2. Choose a resource (state) that you would like to have
3. Recall a time that you had the resource; relive this experience, step into the body of the you then, see things from your eyes, what can you see? What can you hear? How do you feel?
4. Break state
5. Pick three anchors (kinaesthetic, auditory, visual, olfactory, gustatory)
6. Again re-call the past event when you had the resource, when you feel you are in the highest posible state add in the three anchors ( as an example, as the state comes to the peak ask the client to say “confident” for a confident state - auditory, to clench their hand for a kineasthetic anchor, etc. )
7. Break state
8. Repeat step 6 for all anchors until they are fully embedded
9. Test the anchor by firing the state using one of the anchors;
Imagine a time in the future when you will need the resourceful state, imagine firing the anchor
Use sliding scales to monitor the power of the anchored state change.
Stacking Anchors
1. Pick several positive states; confidence, excitement, loving, joyous, powerful, etc.
2. Pick a body kinaesthetic anchor such as squeezing your finger and thumb together or clapping your hands or in the style of Anthony Robbins, making a fist.
3. Relive a past experience for each one of the positive states. When at the highest point add that feeling to your body anchor.
4. Complete step three for each individial state stacking up the feeling associated with the same anchor.
Chaining Anchors
Useful for when someone feels like it is a big step from one emotion to another, when they need the anchor breaking up into smaller steps for example 'fear to confidence', might be 'fear, concern, anticipation, prepared, confidence'
1. Find out the current state and the future state desired
2. Work out what the in-between states might be
3. Anchor each state on different parts of the clients body (Fear – finger, concern –wrist, prapared – elbow, etc
4. Create and test each anchor in turn
5. Use the first anchor to trigger the second anchor and so on creating a chain reaction to the positive state
6. Repeat several times until the anchor is automatic
Collapsing anchors
If two states are anchored and fired simultaneously, creating confusion and thus a new state is created. The negative state will collapse making way for a positive state.
1. Identify the negative state to be collapsed. Try and choose a specific memory which causes you to respond negatively.
2. Next, choose the positive state you would like to install instead. Again, choose a specific time you have been in this state, or for best results, choose a few examples of a time you have been in this state, and anchor them all together
Your positive state must be stronger than the negative state – otherwise this technique won’t work
3. First, anchor the negative state, by rubbing the thumb and finger of your left hand together whilst you relive the memory. Make sure that you are fully associated when you do this – which means seeing the memory through your own eyes, feeling what you felt, and hearing what you heard. Anchor this memory as it is. Don’t make the feelings any more or less intense. Do this just once. Release the anchor at the peak of the emotion.
4. Break state by doing something else for 30 seconds.
5. Test your anchor by rubbing your thumb and finger together. If the anchor has worked, you’ll feel the negative state come back.
6. Break state again
7. Anchor the positive state. Start to relive the positive memory by associating into it, and seeing what you saw, hearing what you heard, and feeling what you felt. Make the picture bigger, brighter, more colourful and more vivid. Pull it closer towards you and overcome yourself with all these positive emotions.
8. Anchor the positive state by rubbing the thumb and finger of your right hand together whilst you’re feeling all the positive emotions (using different hands uses the different hemispheres of the brain, making it easier to integrate your states). Release the anchor when the emotion is at its peak.
9. Break state for 30 seconds, and then repeat the previous steps by anchoring a different memory of the same positive emotion or the same memory again. Use the same thumb / finger combo to anchor. Do this 2-3 more times.
10. Break state again, and then test your positive anchor.
11. To collapse your anchor, fire off the positive and negative anchors at the same time, by rubbing the thumbs and fingers of both hands together.
12. As you keep holding the anchors, however, you’ll soon break clear of all negative feelings, and start to feel the full power of the positive emotions. When you feel that the anchors have collapsed – i.e. you feel awesome – let go of the negative anchor, whilst keeping hold of the positive anchor for another 5-10 seconds.
13. Test and “future pace” the effectiveness of the collapsing anchors technique by imagining a time in the future when you’ll have to encounter the thing that made you feel negative before. If this has worked, you will feel more positive
Wednesday, 2 February 2011
The Fast Phobia Cure
The Fast Phobia cure allows a client to process an unpleasant memory or a phobic response so that they change the order of the experience in their brain in such a way that it is eliminated and no more fear exists.
The fast phobia cure allows the client to re-experience a trauma or phobia without experiencing the emotional content of the event or having to face up to the trigger that would normally set off the phobic response.
You should ensure that you work in a comfortable, relaxed environment with no distractions, where the client will know themselves to be completely safe in the presence of the practitioner who can help them to be grounded and to overcome their phobia.
The client will examine an experience whilst they are doubly dissociated from the memory, creating a separation between them (in the now) and the emotions of a trauma or a phobic response in the past. In this particular exercise, the double dissociation is done through having the client watch themselves in a cinema (double dissociation).
Please check this technique out on YouTube if you have any problems understanding how to use it. We will upload a video clip to our facebook page.
The Fast Phobia Cure:
1. Identify when you have a reoccurring phobic response or a traumatic or unpleasant memory that you wish to overcome.
2. Remember that you were safe before and are safe after the unpleasant experience.
3. Imagine yourself sitting in an empty cinema auditorium, sitting comfortably watching yourself on a small, black-and-white screen.
4. Now imagine floating out of the you that is sitting in the cinema seat and into the projection booth.
5. You can now see yourself in the projection booth, watching yourself in the seat, watching the film of you on the screen.
6. Run the film in black and white, on the very small compact screen, starting before you experience the memory you wish to overcome and running it through until after the experience when you were safe again.
7. Now freeze the film or turn the screen completely white.
8. Float out of the projection booth, out of the seat, and into the end of the film.
9. Run the film backwards very quickly, in a matter of a second or two, in full colour, as if you are experiencing the film, right back to the beginning, when you were safe.
10. You can now repeat steps 8 and 9 until you are comfortable with the experience.
11. Now go into the future and test an imaginary time when you might have experienced the phobic response.
Enjoy!
The fast phobia cure allows the client to re-experience a trauma or phobia without experiencing the emotional content of the event or having to face up to the trigger that would normally set off the phobic response.
You should ensure that you work in a comfortable, relaxed environment with no distractions, where the client will know themselves to be completely safe in the presence of the practitioner who can help them to be grounded and to overcome their phobia.
The client will examine an experience whilst they are doubly dissociated from the memory, creating a separation between them (in the now) and the emotions of a trauma or a phobic response in the past. In this particular exercise, the double dissociation is done through having the client watch themselves in a cinema (double dissociation).
Please check this technique out on YouTube if you have any problems understanding how to use it. We will upload a video clip to our facebook page.
The Fast Phobia Cure:
1. Identify when you have a reoccurring phobic response or a traumatic or unpleasant memory that you wish to overcome.
2. Remember that you were safe before and are safe after the unpleasant experience.
3. Imagine yourself sitting in an empty cinema auditorium, sitting comfortably watching yourself on a small, black-and-white screen.
4. Now imagine floating out of the you that is sitting in the cinema seat and into the projection booth.
5. You can now see yourself in the projection booth, watching yourself in the seat, watching the film of you on the screen.
6. Run the film in black and white, on the very small compact screen, starting before you experience the memory you wish to overcome and running it through until after the experience when you were safe again.
7. Now freeze the film or turn the screen completely white.
8. Float out of the projection booth, out of the seat, and into the end of the film.
9. Run the film backwards very quickly, in a matter of a second or two, in full colour, as if you are experiencing the film, right back to the beginning, when you were safe.
10. You can now repeat steps 8 and 9 until you are comfortable with the experience.
11. Now go into the future and test an imaginary time when you might have experienced the phobic response.
Enjoy!
Thursday, 20 January 2011
Memory Palace - Jan Practice Group 2011
What a great start to the new year; the Memory Palace Technique that we practiced during our January practice group session was an unbelievable success, we all knew we would be able to pick up the technique using VAKOG and Visualisations and I would add that none of us realised the results using this technique would bring
If you missed this session, come along to the February practice group session. Below you will find a link to a great NLP website and magazine:
ANLP is The Association for Neuro Linguistic Programming, a Social Enterprise (Community Interest Company) which exists to represent an impartial and independent voice for NLP. Our aim is to maintain standards and encourage best practice amongst NLP Professionals and inform the public about the benefits and applications of NLP.
If you missed this session, come along to the February practice group session. Below you will find a link to a great NLP website and magazine:
ANLP is The Association for Neuro Linguistic Programming, a Social Enterprise (Community Interest Company) which exists to represent an impartial and independent voice for NLP. Our aim is to maintain standards and encourage best practice amongst NLP Professionals and inform the public about the benefits and applications of NLP.
Wednesday, 22 December 2010
Tuesday, 7 December 2010
Memory Palace
The Memory Palace is one of the most powerful memory techniques available. It is easy to learn and fun! The Memory Palace technique is based on the fact that we remember the details of the places we know; our home, palace of work or local street, etc. You can use the memory palace to remember a wide range of subjects.
Memory Palace Technique
1. Choose Your Palace – a place you know well this could be a building or street
Pick a palace you know well, you have to be very familiar with this place as you need to be able to walk around your palace in your minds eye, feeling associated, seeing it from your eyes as if you were there now.
Start from the beginning of your palace and walk around it taking a specific route, recalling everything you can see; a painting on the wall, a chair, etc.
2. List All The Distinctive Features
Start again, noticing all the details of your palace; what is the first thing you can see (a door as an example – what color is the door, where is the letter box? Etc) what can you see next? As you walk into new rooms, it is good to follow a pattern, as an example looking through your room from left to right.
What do you notice first as you enter each room, what stands out? Make a mental note of everything you see.
• It is good to physically walk through your real palace to take in all the detail of each room.
• Once you have finished, go over it one more time as you need to have the palace clearly in your mind
3. Associate
Using a “memory peg” (a feature from your memory palace; example door, picture etc) and combine it with the element you want to memorize; make this as crazy and unusual as possible use all of VAKOG for each item you want to remember.
As an example, if you wanted to remember a list of tasks/chores to complete, using 'your house' as your palace; you may look at your front door as see a giant bra stapled to the door blowing in the wind, as the wind blows the bra, it slaps you in the face and you can feel and hear the wet slap as the bra needs to be dried out (hang the washing out) as you walk into your house you feel something pushing against the door, as you walk in you are met by a giddy wheelie bin panting and jumping up and down like a puppy wanting to go out for a wee (take the bin out), etc.
4. Visit Your Palace
Repeat the journey a couple of times (especially if you're new to this technique), starting from the same point each time, paying attention to your memory pegs. Once you have finished, re-walk the route starting from the end (your last memory peg) and walking all the way through your palace until you end at the beginning.
Memory Palace Technique
1. Choose Your Palace – a place you know well this could be a building or street
Pick a palace you know well, you have to be very familiar with this place as you need to be able to walk around your palace in your minds eye, feeling associated, seeing it from your eyes as if you were there now.
Start from the beginning of your palace and walk around it taking a specific route, recalling everything you can see; a painting on the wall, a chair, etc.
2. List All The Distinctive Features
Start again, noticing all the details of your palace; what is the first thing you can see (a door as an example – what color is the door, where is the letter box? Etc) what can you see next? As you walk into new rooms, it is good to follow a pattern, as an example looking through your room from left to right.
What do you notice first as you enter each room, what stands out? Make a mental note of everything you see.
• It is good to physically walk through your real palace to take in all the detail of each room.
• Once you have finished, go over it one more time as you need to have the palace clearly in your mind
3. Associate
Using a “memory peg” (a feature from your memory palace; example door, picture etc) and combine it with the element you want to memorize; make this as crazy and unusual as possible use all of VAKOG for each item you want to remember.
As an example, if you wanted to remember a list of tasks/chores to complete, using 'your house' as your palace; you may look at your front door as see a giant bra stapled to the door blowing in the wind, as the wind blows the bra, it slaps you in the face and you can feel and hear the wet slap as the bra needs to be dried out (hang the washing out) as you walk into your house you feel something pushing against the door, as you walk in you are met by a giddy wheelie bin panting and jumping up and down like a puppy wanting to go out for a wee (take the bin out), etc.
4. Visit Your Palace
Repeat the journey a couple of times (especially if you're new to this technique), starting from the same point each time, paying attention to your memory pegs. Once you have finished, re-walk the route starting from the end (your last memory peg) and walking all the way through your palace until you end at the beginning.
Friday, 3 December 2010
December Practice Group Session
After having a chat with some of our regulars last month, we have decided that in the spirit of the festive season we would like to hold our December practice group in the comfort of a nice warm pub where we can clink glasses and enjoy a nice 'round the table' chat about our favourite subject - NLP!!!
So, on Wednesday 8th December we shall be meeting in the Elizabethan pub, Heaton Moor at the earlier time of 6pm.
The Elizabethen Pub
33 Heaton Moor Road,
Heaton Moor, Stockport,
Greater Manchester
SK4 4PB
So, on Wednesday 8th December we shall be meeting in the Elizabethan pub, Heaton Moor at the earlier time of 6pm.
The Elizabethen Pub
33 Heaton Moor Road,
Heaton Moor, Stockport,
Greater Manchester
SK4 4PB
Monday, 1 November 2010
Circle of Excellence - technique two
The Circle of Excellence is one of the most popular NLP techniques taught on the NLP practitioner course. How would it feel to really master this fantastic NLP technique? Would it benefit you or your clients to be an expert at anchoring positive emotions? If you could instantly access confidence or any other positive emotion, how would this improve your life, career or even your delivery of presentations?
For the members who have been around since the beginning of the practice group, you will remember that we have practiced CEO previously, this month we will use a new version of the CEO to add extra tools to your NLP belt.
The C.O.E. can be used to summon up the confidence to perform a skill of task to the very best of your ability. You can use it if you have a fear of public speaking, before an interview or important meeting, to play your best shot in sport and in many other instances.
Practising the Circle of Excellence.
1. The Situation. First think of a situation when you would like to feel your most resourceful self, for example, when giving a group presentation, when attending an important interview or when being a guess speaker.
2. The Circle. Draw an imaginary circle on the ground in front of you.
Ask:
• How thick is your circle?
• What colour is your circle?
3. Relive Confidence. Stand up and let yourself go back in your memory to a time when you were feeling very confident (or any other positive state). Get back to it strongly; see what you saw and hear what you heard. Notice what you are feeling and how good it feels reliving that moment...
4. Project the feelings into the circle. Imagine that you could take all those positive feelings from inside you and project them into the circle. How will you be able to do that? How would it look if you could project your feelings into the circle? Take your positive state and project them into the CEO.
5. See your state. As you look at the CEO, visualise your state, what does it look like? How is your state symbolised? What colour is it? Does it move? In which direction does it travel? At what speed does it travel? How does your state sound? It you could smell the state, what does it smell like? Does it have a taste? Is their a temperature to your state? Be aware of everything you need to know about your state.
6. Build the state up. Build up the state, make the colours more intense, brighter and stronger, see the speed of your state increase, and notice how the smell and taste becomes stronger, hear the sound of the state clearly. Once your state is at its peak, step into the COE and feel the power of the emotions as they surround you, breath it in and let this strong emotion run through your body. Notice the feeling running through your body making you more confident- enjoy this feeling fully.
7. 2nd Anchor. Enjoy this feeling, if you could describe this feeling with a word, symbol or even a facial expression or gesture, what would it be? Before the strength of the state reduces, step out of the COE living the positive feeling in the CEO, remembering the Anchored word, symbol or expression/gesture.
8. Break State. Shake off and break state.
9. Adding new states. To make the CEO stronger, repeat the exercise steps 3-6 two more times each time notice how much stronger and more powerful the CEO becomes. You can also use and add new emotions and states. As you step into the CEO for the second and third time, you will see the colours, smell and speed, etc, of the positive emotions. Remember your anchors; the words, symbols or expression/gestures.
10. Future use. Think about a time in the future, when you could use the CEO, See and hear what will be happening just before you want to feel confident. How will the scene unfold? What is the cue to knowing that it is nearly time to step into the CEO?
See yourself from your own eyes, from the future you, see the COE on the floor, noticing all the elements of the CEO and step into it, as you feel the emotions running through your body, notice how well you are performing; feel good as you see everything going as well as it could possibly go - better then you believed it could be.
11. Break state repeat as many time as needed.
For the members who have been around since the beginning of the practice group, you will remember that we have practiced CEO previously, this month we will use a new version of the CEO to add extra tools to your NLP belt.
The C.O.E. can be used to summon up the confidence to perform a skill of task to the very best of your ability. You can use it if you have a fear of public speaking, before an interview or important meeting, to play your best shot in sport and in many other instances.
Practising the Circle of Excellence.
1. The Situation. First think of a situation when you would like to feel your most resourceful self, for example, when giving a group presentation, when attending an important interview or when being a guess speaker.
2. The Circle. Draw an imaginary circle on the ground in front of you.
Ask:
• How thick is your circle?
• What colour is your circle?
3. Relive Confidence. Stand up and let yourself go back in your memory to a time when you were feeling very confident (or any other positive state). Get back to it strongly; see what you saw and hear what you heard. Notice what you are feeling and how good it feels reliving that moment...
4. Project the feelings into the circle. Imagine that you could take all those positive feelings from inside you and project them into the circle. How will you be able to do that? How would it look if you could project your feelings into the circle? Take your positive state and project them into the CEO.
5. See your state. As you look at the CEO, visualise your state, what does it look like? How is your state symbolised? What colour is it? Does it move? In which direction does it travel? At what speed does it travel? How does your state sound? It you could smell the state, what does it smell like? Does it have a taste? Is their a temperature to your state? Be aware of everything you need to know about your state.
6. Build the state up. Build up the state, make the colours more intense, brighter and stronger, see the speed of your state increase, and notice how the smell and taste becomes stronger, hear the sound of the state clearly. Once your state is at its peak, step into the COE and feel the power of the emotions as they surround you, breath it in and let this strong emotion run through your body. Notice the feeling running through your body making you more confident- enjoy this feeling fully.
7. 2nd Anchor. Enjoy this feeling, if you could describe this feeling with a word, symbol or even a facial expression or gesture, what would it be? Before the strength of the state reduces, step out of the COE living the positive feeling in the CEO, remembering the Anchored word, symbol or expression/gesture.
8. Break State. Shake off and break state.
9. Adding new states. To make the CEO stronger, repeat the exercise steps 3-6 two more times each time notice how much stronger and more powerful the CEO becomes. You can also use and add new emotions and states. As you step into the CEO for the second and third time, you will see the colours, smell and speed, etc, of the positive emotions. Remember your anchors; the words, symbols or expression/gestures.
10. Future use. Think about a time in the future, when you could use the CEO, See and hear what will be happening just before you want to feel confident. How will the scene unfold? What is the cue to knowing that it is nearly time to step into the CEO?
See yourself from your own eyes, from the future you, see the COE on the floor, noticing all the elements of the CEO and step into it, as you feel the emotions running through your body, notice how well you are performing; feel good as you see everything going as well as it could possibly go - better then you believed it could be.
11. Break state repeat as many time as needed.
Thursday, 14 October 2010
Reminder: Come and Share your practice experiences with us on Facebook!
Dear all,
We've joined facebook - Come and join us there!
Look us up 'Manchester NLP Practice Group'
or follow the link..
Facebook
Sandie
Posted by NLP practice group at 15:41
1 comments:
NLP practice group said...
Each month in between Practice Groups, we will be reminding members via email to update our Facebook wall with their practice feedback and experiences. We all agreed at the last session that the main reason for the practice group is to become confident and experienced in using NLP techniques successfully, so we encourage you to keep practicing whenever an opportunity presents it's self! Good look and we look forward to hearing from you on Facebook! Sandie :-)
14 October 2010 01:29
We've joined facebook - Come and join us there!
Look us up 'Manchester NLP Practice Group'
or follow the link..
Sandie
Posted by NLP practice group at 15:41
1 comments:
NLP practice group said...
Each month in between Practice Groups, we will be reminding members via email to update our Facebook wall with their practice feedback and experiences. We all agreed at the last session that the main reason for the practice group is to become confident and experienced in using NLP techniques successfully, so we encourage you to keep practicing whenever an opportunity presents it's self! Good look and we look forward to hearing from you on Facebook! Sandie :-)
14 October 2010 01:29
Saturday, 9 October 2010
The Power of Metaphors
Welcome back to the NLP Blogspot!
This month we will be exploring and practicing working with Metaphors.
A metaphor is a figure of speech in which a word or phrase that denotes a certain object or idea is applied to another word or phrase to imply some similarity between them. When using metaphors we can discuss our experiences in creative and imaginative ways to allow easier understanding for another to grasp what the experience was actually like for us.
Here are a few exercises to get you thinking in terms of Metaphors:-
Exercise One
We often use Metaphors without even thinking about it. A few examples are: 'I feel like everything is getting on top of me', 'I feel like I could sleep for England', 'You smell as sweet as a rose' , 'I will cross that bridge when I come to it', 'I feel like my head is spinning'.
Ok, now have a go at describing how you are feeling today, using a metaphor.
Today I feel......
Now, using that Metaphor, ask a question to explore the Metaphor in greater detail.
Example
A. "I feel like everything is on top of me"
Q. "Does it feel heavy or light?"
Explore and gather more information regarding this metaphor so that your metaphoric concept can be fully understood. Remeber you control your thoughts; using your unlimited imagination you can create fantastic outcomes and get yourself in peak mental states.
Exercise Two
If you had to describe yourself as an animal what animal would you like to be compared to?
Q. Why have you chosen that particular animal?
Q. How does this animal represent you?
Q. Where do you see yourself - Where are you?
Q. What are the benefits of being this particular animal? What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses?
Exercise Three - Creating a metaphoric story.
Working with a Partner
Ask your partner to think of a situation or a personal goal that they would like to handle using all their personal strengths. Explore the situation to get a more information how your partner would ideally like the situation to unfold.
Q. What resources or personal strenghts does your partner want to tap into?
Now, using your metaphoric imagination, create a story line that will represent the situation you have in mind. Use Metaphic content, for example; will you use people, animals or objects in your story? NB: Milton Erikson once used the character of a tomato plant to stand in for a man with terminal cancer.
Provide a solution to the story if possible or needed
Add a future pace
Present situation
A young man gets stressed at work due to the large amount of work he has to do; he looks at his list of tasks and starts to feel overwhelmed. He will start several tasks at the same time and not get many completed, leaving him feeling unmotivated.
Desired outcome
To be able to start and finish all his task on time. To complete all his task.
To be able to see all the task as individual tasks and to start one task at a time, to 'see' that he is getting through his work load
The Story
Many moons ago lived a strong man who had recently started a new job in a quarry. His job that day was to move a large pile of rocks from one part of the quarry to another. The rocks were largenand he was to carry them in his hands. When he came to work on the first one, he noticed how many rocks he had to carry and thought 'there is no way I can move all those rocks, not in one day', then he had an idea. 'I am super strong; I will carry four rocks at a time'. As he tried to pick up the rocks and balance them in his hands, the rocks kept falling off and he wasn't able to move any of them.
He then thought if I can't carry four rocks, I will try three. As he picked up three rocks he tried to carry them over to the other side of the quarry. As he got half way, his arms tired and he dropped the rocks and they all smashed into tiny pieces.
He went back to the massive pile of rocks and tried to carry two at a time, as he struggled across the quarry he noticed again just how heavy the rocks were and how slow they made him walk. Eventually he made it to the other side but not without realising that it had taken him three times as long to carry two rocks as it would to have carried just one.
Solution
He went back to the rock pile whilst trying to figure out the best way to complete the mission. Then it dawned on him. He got straight to work carrying just one rock at a time. This time he could walk fast and he didn't drop a single rock until he had got them all over to the other side of the quarry. He had noticed that by carrying each rock individually, he could see the rock pile getting smaller and smaller and this had kept him feeling really motivated.
Future Pace
A couple of weeks later the quarry foreman came over and told him how pleased he was with his work andion. The foreman was impressed with his dedication and motivation, so much so that he gave him a payrise and promotion.
Now create your own metaphoric story.
See you on Wednesday!!
This month we will be exploring and practicing working with Metaphors.
A metaphor is a figure of speech in which a word or phrase that denotes a certain object or idea is applied to another word or phrase to imply some similarity between them. When using metaphors we can discuss our experiences in creative and imaginative ways to allow easier understanding for another to grasp what the experience was actually like for us.
Here are a few exercises to get you thinking in terms of Metaphors:-
Exercise One
We often use Metaphors without even thinking about it. A few examples are: 'I feel like everything is getting on top of me', 'I feel like I could sleep for England', 'You smell as sweet as a rose' , 'I will cross that bridge when I come to it', 'I feel like my head is spinning'.
Ok, now have a go at describing how you are feeling today, using a metaphor.
Today I feel......
Now, using that Metaphor, ask a question to explore the Metaphor in greater detail.
Example
A. "I feel like everything is on top of me"
Q. "Does it feel heavy or light?"
Explore and gather more information regarding this metaphor so that your metaphoric concept can be fully understood. Remeber you control your thoughts; using your unlimited imagination you can create fantastic outcomes and get yourself in peak mental states.
Exercise Two
If you had to describe yourself as an animal what animal would you like to be compared to?
Q. Why have you chosen that particular animal?
Q. How does this animal represent you?
Q. Where do you see yourself - Where are you?
Q. What are the benefits of being this particular animal? What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses?
Exercise Three - Creating a metaphoric story.
Working with a Partner
Ask your partner to think of a situation or a personal goal that they would like to handle using all their personal strengths. Explore the situation to get a more information how your partner would ideally like the situation to unfold.
Q. What resources or personal strenghts does your partner want to tap into?
Now, using your metaphoric imagination, create a story line that will represent the situation you have in mind. Use Metaphic content, for example; will you use people, animals or objects in your story? NB: Milton Erikson once used the character of a tomato plant to stand in for a man with terminal cancer.
Provide a solution to the story if possible or needed
Add a future pace
Present situation
A young man gets stressed at work due to the large amount of work he has to do; he looks at his list of tasks and starts to feel overwhelmed. He will start several tasks at the same time and not get many completed, leaving him feeling unmotivated.
Desired outcome
To be able to start and finish all his task on time. To complete all his task.
To be able to see all the task as individual tasks and to start one task at a time, to 'see' that he is getting through his work load
The Story
Many moons ago lived a strong man who had recently started a new job in a quarry. His job that day was to move a large pile of rocks from one part of the quarry to another. The rocks were largenand he was to carry them in his hands. When he came to work on the first one, he noticed how many rocks he had to carry and thought 'there is no way I can move all those rocks, not in one day', then he had an idea. 'I am super strong; I will carry four rocks at a time'. As he tried to pick up the rocks and balance them in his hands, the rocks kept falling off and he wasn't able to move any of them.
He then thought if I can't carry four rocks, I will try three. As he picked up three rocks he tried to carry them over to the other side of the quarry. As he got half way, his arms tired and he dropped the rocks and they all smashed into tiny pieces.
He went back to the massive pile of rocks and tried to carry two at a time, as he struggled across the quarry he noticed again just how heavy the rocks were and how slow they made him walk. Eventually he made it to the other side but not without realising that it had taken him three times as long to carry two rocks as it would to have carried just one.
Solution
He went back to the rock pile whilst trying to figure out the best way to complete the mission. Then it dawned on him. He got straight to work carrying just one rock at a time. This time he could walk fast and he didn't drop a single rock until he had got them all over to the other side of the quarry. He had noticed that by carrying each rock individually, he could see the rock pile getting smaller and smaller and this had kept him feeling really motivated.
Future Pace
A couple of weeks later the quarry foreman came over and told him how pleased he was with his work andion. The foreman was impressed with his dedication and motivation, so much so that he gave him a payrise and promotion.
Now create your own metaphoric story.
See you on Wednesday!!
Wednesday, 1 September 2010
Pacing, Leading and Embedded Commands
Welcome to the NLP Practice Group Blog!
Once again you are sat down reading this introduction and you are getting excited about reading and learning a new NLP technique.
This month’s NLP practice technique is about Pacing, Leading and Embedded commands. Once you have matched someone and gained rapport with them, you can influence and lead them towards a more positive view point.
(For a quick demonstration, match someone’s breathing pattern (pace) and once in rapport change your breathing pattern (lead) and watch their breathing change as yours does.)
Don’t try to Lead too soon. Remember Pace, Pace, Pace and then Lead.
You have just learnt a little about pacing and leading, this has already intrigued you and you now want to learn more. With an open mind, the techniques you will learn tonight will help you improve your NLP skills.
Embedded Commands are commands that have been softened by embedding them into a sentence: “you can feel good as you start this next exercise!!”
Exercise One
YES SET’S
Step one: Pacing
Ask 3 questions or state 3 truths that can only be responded by saying “yes”
Example:
“we are here..”
“today is Wednesday”
“you are sat down..”
“we are constantly learning...”
“the more you practice NLP techniques, the more competent you will become..”
Step two: Leading
Use a phrase such as:
“meaning that..”
“Which suggest that...”
“this shows that...”
“proving that..”
Step three: Add suggestion or instruction.
Exercise Two
D’Main Authority By So in The Flow Visit his Website!
Step one: Pacing
Start a conversation, listen, show respect, use empathy and gain rapport. Keep listening and nod throughout the conversation.
Client “I enjoy cooking. I often cook dinner parties and have even been asked to cook at a dinner party for money..”
You – keep quiet and nod
Step two: Expanding
Expand their conversation; show them what is beyond their scope.
You “it sounds like you’re a really good cook with a lot of potential; my friend was very similar to you, she loved cooking and ended up starting a part time business as a Party Chef, cooking for large dinner parties. She gets paid everyday for something she loves doing .....” give detail and move them forward slowly
Step three: Take them somewhere useful
Lead or suggest
You “perhaps you could benefit from writing a list of positives and negatives with regards having a part time catering business, to see if it would work for you?”
Exercise Three
Embedded Commands.
Below are just a few examples to give you a better understanding of embedded commands. For embedded commands to be effective they have to be hidden in a conversation.
Step one: Weasel Phase (set up)
“when you..”
“if you were to..”
“How does it feel when you...”
“you really shouldn’t...”
“A person can...”
Step two: Command Verb. Change your tone here or leave a small gap before and after the command as the unconscious mind will pick this up. Don’t make it to obvious or the conscious mind will notice that in stead and wonder what you are doing!
“become..”
“experience...”
“think about..”
“remember...”
“have...”
“feel...”
Step three: State, Processes or experience
“Excited”
“a change of mind”
“that I am right”
“to learn more”
Examples:
“you can...feel good...as you start this exercise”
“what is it like when....you feel good...because you have met your deadlines”
“remember to....learn more..”
“when you...start to feel curious.., do you act on it”
“when you read this technique, notice how you become...really interested..in embedded commands”
“I recently read a study about people who...eat sushi...are more healthier”
“now you have read the review, do you want to...buy this product...today?”
Once again you are sat down reading this introduction and you are getting excited about reading and learning a new NLP technique.
This month’s NLP practice technique is about Pacing, Leading and Embedded commands. Once you have matched someone and gained rapport with them, you can influence and lead them towards a more positive view point.
(For a quick demonstration, match someone’s breathing pattern (pace) and once in rapport change your breathing pattern (lead) and watch their breathing change as yours does.)
Don’t try to Lead too soon. Remember Pace, Pace, Pace and then Lead.
You have just learnt a little about pacing and leading, this has already intrigued you and you now want to learn more. With an open mind, the techniques you will learn tonight will help you improve your NLP skills.
Embedded Commands are commands that have been softened by embedding them into a sentence: “you can feel good as you start this next exercise!!”
Exercise One
YES SET’S
Step one: Pacing
Ask 3 questions or state 3 truths that can only be responded by saying “yes”
Example:
“we are here..”
“today is Wednesday”
“you are sat down..”
“we are constantly learning...”
“the more you practice NLP techniques, the more competent you will become..”
Step two: Leading
Use a phrase such as:
“meaning that..”
“Which suggest that...”
“this shows that...”
“proving that..”
Step three: Add suggestion or instruction.
Exercise Two
D’Main Authority By So in The Flow Visit his Website!
Step one: Pacing
Start a conversation, listen, show respect, use empathy and gain rapport. Keep listening and nod throughout the conversation.
Client “I enjoy cooking. I often cook dinner parties and have even been asked to cook at a dinner party for money..”
You – keep quiet and nod
Step two: Expanding
Expand their conversation; show them what is beyond their scope.
You “it sounds like you’re a really good cook with a lot of potential; my friend was very similar to you, she loved cooking and ended up starting a part time business as a Party Chef, cooking for large dinner parties. She gets paid everyday for something she loves doing .....” give detail and move them forward slowly
Step three: Take them somewhere useful
Lead or suggest
You “perhaps you could benefit from writing a list of positives and negatives with regards having a part time catering business, to see if it would work for you?”
Exercise Three
Embedded Commands.
Below are just a few examples to give you a better understanding of embedded commands. For embedded commands to be effective they have to be hidden in a conversation.
Step one: Weasel Phase (set up)
“when you..”
“if you were to..”
“How does it feel when you...”
“you really shouldn’t...”
“A person can...”
Step two: Command Verb. Change your tone here or leave a small gap before and after the command as the unconscious mind will pick this up. Don’t make it to obvious or the conscious mind will notice that in stead and wonder what you are doing!
“become..”
“experience...”
“think about..”
“remember...”
“have...”
“feel...”
Step three: State, Processes or experience
“Excited”
“a change of mind”
“that I am right”
“to learn more”
Examples:
“you can...feel good...as you start this exercise”
“what is it like when....you feel good...because you have met your deadlines”
“remember to....learn more..”
“when you...start to feel curious.., do you act on it”
“when you read this technique, notice how you become...really interested..in embedded commands”
“I recently read a study about people who...eat sushi...are more healthier”
“now you have read the review, do you want to...buy this product...today?”
Monday, 9 August 2010
Limiting Beliefs – The Limiting Belief Buster and The Change Personal History Technique
Do you have a limiting belief that holds you back?
Our beliefs are at the core of who we are. Beliefs guide our decisions and behaviour in all areas of life. Unfortunately, some of our beliefs can be negative and can limit our choices in life. Some of our limiting beliefs may be based on what someone else has told us, and sometimes our beliefs were formed at an early age, which you have long since outgrown, but still blindly carry with us without question – what’s more, they can become self fulfilling prophecies whereby we go out of our way to prove our limiting beliefs to be right!
The Limiting Belief Destroyer Technique will help you destroy your limiting belief by changing the ‘submodalities’ of the limiting belief.
When practicing this technique use a small limiting belief first, then once you have mastered the technique and understand all the steps, you can then use the technique to destroy bigger limiting beliefs.
EXERCISE ONE – Exploring and Understanding Submodalities in order to Change Limiting Beliefs
Step 1:
Think of something you believe to be true, this can be a small thing like ‘I believe I can drive my car” or “I believe I am a loving father or mother”
When thinking of this belief, notice where the visualisation you instantly create is located – notice where in space that image is positioned. Is the image on the left or right side of your mind?
How near or far away is the image? What auditory sounds can you hear when you think of this belief? Do you say anything to yourself? What other sounds can you hear?
Be aware of what makes this belief real.
BREAK STATE
Step 2:
Now think of something that you are not sure is true or false - something you’re not really concerned about either way. For example “I believe my maths ability is better than your maths ability”
When thinking of this ‘unsure’ belief, notice where the visualisation you create is – Notice where in space that image is positioned, is the image on the left or right side of your mind?
How near or far away is the image? What auditory sounds can you hear when you think of this belief? Do you say anything to yourself? What other sounds can you hear?
Step 3: Testing!
Now you have the submodalities for both a strong and a weak belief. Take your strong belief and change the submodalities to that of the weak belief; if the weak belief image is far away push the strong belief image far away, etc. Once you have changed all the VAK submodalities, ask yourself “How do I feel about it now?”
If your strong belief is positive, return the original submodalities to the belief, as this exercise is just an example of how your beliefs are powered by their submodalities.
Take the weak belief and change it to the submodalities of the strong belief, how do you feel about this belief now?
EXERCISE Two – Change Personal History
Empowering Memory: Think about an empowering and positive memory that has an effect on your behaviour even today. This experience has taught you something about yourself - convinced you of a quality or talent you possess. These experiences often happen to us while we are at school, although they can also happened at any time during our lives. Bring the memory fully to your mind and relive the experience as if it is happening to you now.
Ordinary Memory: Think of an ordinary memory, a task you complete everyday that you don’t really think about or care about, for example taking your bin out or logging off your computer at work.
Checking the Submodalities: compare both memories, checking the ‘submodalities’ of both memories. Which memory is bigger, nearer or further away? Is one memory bright and the other dull? List all of the submodalities, both visual, auditory and kinsthetic.
Search for a “negative” imprinted experience: Think about a negative experience that has been imprinted into your mind. Think about the belief that resulted from it, that now effects your life in a way you don’t appreciate.
You can do this in 3 ways:
1. Think of an unpleasant experience that stands out strongly or was an unpleasant experience that was a turning point in your life.
2. Think of a generalisation or attitude you posses which get in your way! Use the associated feelings to search back through time to find the ‘imprint’ experience that formed it.
3. Think of a repetitive unpleasant feeling you have and use that feeling to search back through time to find the ‘imprint’ experience and the resulting conclusion.
Search for a positive imprinted experience: What positive imprint experience have you had recently that if you had the same experience before the negative experience, would have automatically allowed you to respond more resourcefully and interpreted the situation in a different and more positive way?
Look at the image of this positive imprinted memory and add it, in your minds eye, to the submodalities of the empowering memory.
Time Travel: In your mind, keeping your positive mental attitude, imagine floating up out of your body and above your timeline, travel back through time to a point before your negative imprinted experience, keeping your positive mental attitude.
Remain associated as you travel rapidly forward in time; see, hear and feel as the past events are re-evaluated and transformed by your positive mental attitude.
Do this fairly quickly allowing your unconscious mind to shift what happens, colouring your past with the new imprint.
Experience how past events including the negative experience imprint are instantly changed by your new positive mental attitude.
Repeat the process until the new belief and empowering submodalities stick.
Our beliefs are at the core of who we are. Beliefs guide our decisions and behaviour in all areas of life. Unfortunately, some of our beliefs can be negative and can limit our choices in life. Some of our limiting beliefs may be based on what someone else has told us, and sometimes our beliefs were formed at an early age, which you have long since outgrown, but still blindly carry with us without question – what’s more, they can become self fulfilling prophecies whereby we go out of our way to prove our limiting beliefs to be right!
The Limiting Belief Destroyer Technique will help you destroy your limiting belief by changing the ‘submodalities’ of the limiting belief.
When practicing this technique use a small limiting belief first, then once you have mastered the technique and understand all the steps, you can then use the technique to destroy bigger limiting beliefs.
EXERCISE ONE – Exploring and Understanding Submodalities in order to Change Limiting Beliefs
Step 1:
Think of something you believe to be true, this can be a small thing like ‘I believe I can drive my car” or “I believe I am a loving father or mother”
When thinking of this belief, notice where the visualisation you instantly create is located – notice where in space that image is positioned. Is the image on the left or right side of your mind?
How near or far away is the image? What auditory sounds can you hear when you think of this belief? Do you say anything to yourself? What other sounds can you hear?
Be aware of what makes this belief real.
BREAK STATE
Step 2:
Now think of something that you are not sure is true or false - something you’re not really concerned about either way. For example “I believe my maths ability is better than your maths ability”
When thinking of this ‘unsure’ belief, notice where the visualisation you create is – Notice where in space that image is positioned, is the image on the left or right side of your mind?
How near or far away is the image? What auditory sounds can you hear when you think of this belief? Do you say anything to yourself? What other sounds can you hear?
Step 3: Testing!
Now you have the submodalities for both a strong and a weak belief. Take your strong belief and change the submodalities to that of the weak belief; if the weak belief image is far away push the strong belief image far away, etc. Once you have changed all the VAK submodalities, ask yourself “How do I feel about it now?”
If your strong belief is positive, return the original submodalities to the belief, as this exercise is just an example of how your beliefs are powered by their submodalities.
Take the weak belief and change it to the submodalities of the strong belief, how do you feel about this belief now?
EXERCISE Two – Change Personal History
Empowering Memory: Think about an empowering and positive memory that has an effect on your behaviour even today. This experience has taught you something about yourself - convinced you of a quality or talent you possess. These experiences often happen to us while we are at school, although they can also happened at any time during our lives. Bring the memory fully to your mind and relive the experience as if it is happening to you now.
Ordinary Memory: Think of an ordinary memory, a task you complete everyday that you don’t really think about or care about, for example taking your bin out or logging off your computer at work.
Checking the Submodalities: compare both memories, checking the ‘submodalities’ of both memories. Which memory is bigger, nearer or further away? Is one memory bright and the other dull? List all of the submodalities, both visual, auditory and kinsthetic.
Search for a “negative” imprinted experience: Think about a negative experience that has been imprinted into your mind. Think about the belief that resulted from it, that now effects your life in a way you don’t appreciate.
You can do this in 3 ways:
1. Think of an unpleasant experience that stands out strongly or was an unpleasant experience that was a turning point in your life.
2. Think of a generalisation or attitude you posses which get in your way! Use the associated feelings to search back through time to find the ‘imprint’ experience that formed it.
3. Think of a repetitive unpleasant feeling you have and use that feeling to search back through time to find the ‘imprint’ experience and the resulting conclusion.
Search for a positive imprinted experience: What positive imprint experience have you had recently that if you had the same experience before the negative experience, would have automatically allowed you to respond more resourcefully and interpreted the situation in a different and more positive way?
Look at the image of this positive imprinted memory and add it, in your minds eye, to the submodalities of the empowering memory.
Time Travel: In your mind, keeping your positive mental attitude, imagine floating up out of your body and above your timeline, travel back through time to a point before your negative imprinted experience, keeping your positive mental attitude.
Remain associated as you travel rapidly forward in time; see, hear and feel as the past events are re-evaluated and transformed by your positive mental attitude.
Do this fairly quickly allowing your unconscious mind to shift what happens, colouring your past with the new imprint.
Experience how past events including the negative experience imprint are instantly changed by your new positive mental attitude.
Repeat the process until the new belief and empowering submodalities stick.
Monday, 26 July 2010
NLP Conference 12-14th Novemeber
NLP Conference 12-14th Novemeber
The NLP Conference is a great event for NLP-ers; for information on the Sessions, Guest Speakers and booking follow the link.
The NLP Conference is a great event for NLP-ers; for information on the Sessions, Guest Speakers and booking follow the link.
Saturday, 3 July 2010
The next group is on Wednesday 14th July - Perceptual Positions
Perceptual Positions Summary Sheet.
Think about a relationship that you would like to improve. This could be with a colleague, friend, manager or loved one.
Think about a recent event with this person, a small conflict or difficult situation in which you had a disagreement or an unpleasant or difficult conversation.
1. Consider the conversation from your own perspective
Return to this experience in your mind and run mental movie of this situation as it occurred. Re-experience this situation as fully as possible from your own eyes. What can you see? Notice the person you are talking to, hear what they said to you. See the expression on their face, notice their body language. Become aware of how you feel. Speak to the person (out loud or in your head) and use the same language as you originally did. At the end of this episode, rewind the movie and pause the movie at the beginning of this conflict situation.
BREAK STATE
2. Second Position
Now that your movie is ‘paused’ at the beginning, look over at the other person. Notice how the person is breathing, notice their posture, facial expressions, the way they move. Now consider what their tone of voice is like, do they speak fast or slow, loud or quiet? How to they walk, talk, sit, laugh and relax? What are some of the things you know about this persons; what are their likes and dislikes?
Now imagine floating out of your own body and into the body of the other person. Imagine you are inside this person’s skin. Become aware of how this person experiences life. Take on their posture, gestures and their tone of voice.
Set aside your own beliefs and values and replay the situation from the other persons viewpoint. Pay attention to the thoughts of the other person and to any insights that surface as you observe the other person (you) in front of you.
Use the second persons language to describe what you experience (refer to yourself as you) what have you learnt from this viewpoint, what else can you learn from this persons experience.
After the scene ends float back into your own body taking with you this new learning and insights.
BREAK STATE
3. Third Position
Return to the event and from your own point of view, before you play out the scene, float out of your body and move to a detached place, where you can observe both you and the other person. Once again re-play the event as if you were watching and listening to a film or live show. Be curious about what unfolds before you and notice the learning you gain from this third perspective. Listen to the conversation and notice the body language of both you and the second person.
After the scene ends, float back into your body bringing with you all the insights and learning from the three perceptual positions. Pay attention to the difference in your experience. Take all the time you need to fully return to yourself before opening your eyes.
Repeat this as many times as you feel is necessary and always end in the first position.
Think about a relationship that you would like to improve. This could be with a colleague, friend, manager or loved one.
Think about a recent event with this person, a small conflict or difficult situation in which you had a disagreement or an unpleasant or difficult conversation.
1. Consider the conversation from your own perspective
Return to this experience in your mind and run mental movie of this situation as it occurred. Re-experience this situation as fully as possible from your own eyes. What can you see? Notice the person you are talking to, hear what they said to you. See the expression on their face, notice their body language. Become aware of how you feel. Speak to the person (out loud or in your head) and use the same language as you originally did. At the end of this episode, rewind the movie and pause the movie at the beginning of this conflict situation.
BREAK STATE
2. Second Position
Now that your movie is ‘paused’ at the beginning, look over at the other person. Notice how the person is breathing, notice their posture, facial expressions, the way they move. Now consider what their tone of voice is like, do they speak fast or slow, loud or quiet? How to they walk, talk, sit, laugh and relax? What are some of the things you know about this persons; what are their likes and dislikes?
Now imagine floating out of your own body and into the body of the other person. Imagine you are inside this person’s skin. Become aware of how this person experiences life. Take on their posture, gestures and their tone of voice.
Set aside your own beliefs and values and replay the situation from the other persons viewpoint. Pay attention to the thoughts of the other person and to any insights that surface as you observe the other person (you) in front of you.
Use the second persons language to describe what you experience (refer to yourself as you) what have you learnt from this viewpoint, what else can you learn from this persons experience.
After the scene ends float back into your own body taking with you this new learning and insights.
BREAK STATE
3. Third Position
Return to the event and from your own point of view, before you play out the scene, float out of your body and move to a detached place, where you can observe both you and the other person. Once again re-play the event as if you were watching and listening to a film or live show. Be curious about what unfolds before you and notice the learning you gain from this third perspective. Listen to the conversation and notice the body language of both you and the second person.
After the scene ends, float back into your body bringing with you all the insights and learning from the three perceptual positions. Pay attention to the difference in your experience. Take all the time you need to fully return to yourself before opening your eyes.
Repeat this as many times as you feel is necessary and always end in the first position.
Sunday, 6 June 2010
This Wednesday (9th June) we will be practicing LAB Profiling.
LAB Profiling
Taken from NLP’s Meta Model, ‘Language and Behaviour profiling’ or LAB profiling for short, is a series of questions designed to elicit peoples motivational patterns and behaviours from the language they use. Once you know a series of simple questions, you can then put them into casual conversation. The secret to LAB profiling is listening to HOW people answer the questions as much as WHAT they talk about. Once you know the words that can influence and motivate a person you can use these in your NLP/Coaching session with them to encourage them to achieve their goals.
The following example questions are designed for clients discussing their career and can be changed for different goals.
Motivational Traits: How to trigger motivation and the language to use to capture people’s interest.
Proactive/Reactive - no question for this level
Proactive Action, Do-It, Why Wait? - Short Crisp sentences
Reactive Try, Think About It, Could Wait, Should do
Q1. Criteria – “What do you want to more of in your Job?”
If given more the one criteria ask which criteria they find most important – you can use the parts integrated exercise to help with this.
Q2. Direction – “why is that Criteria Important” ask 3 times
Towards Attain, Gain, Achieve, Get, include, Goal
Away Avoid, Exclude, Recognise Problems, away from
Q3. Source – “How do you know when you will have done a good job?”
Internal Knows within self, I feel it, I just know
External Told by others, Can see it on people’s faces, Facts and figures to prove it
Q4. Reason - “Why did you choose (your current role)”
Options Criteria, choice, possibilities, variety
Procedures Story, how, necessary, didn’t choose
Q5. Decision Factors – “what is the relationship between this job and your last job”
Sameness Sameness, No change
Sameness with exception More, better, comparisons
Difference Change, new, unique
Sameness with exception and difference new and comparisons
Working Traits: How people deal with information and how to maintain motivation.
Scope – no questions for this level
Specific details, sequences, exactly
General overview, big picture, random order
Attention Direction – no questions for this level
Self short monotone responses – no emotions
Other animated, expressive, automatic responsive, respond to body language
Q1. Stress Responsive – “tell me about a work situation that gave you trouble”
Feeling goes in and stays in feelings
Choice goes in and out of feelings
Thinking doesn’t go in feelings
Q2. Style – “tell me about a work situation that was criteria”
“What did you like about it?”
Independent I, alone, sole responsibility
Proximity In control, others around, in charge
Co-operative we, team, share responsibility
Organisation – use answers from above question
Person people, feelings, reactions, people’s names, will feel good
Things tools, task, ideas, objects, goal, get the job done
Q3. Rule structure – “what is a good way to increase your success at work?” and “what is a good way for someone else to increase their success at work”
My/my my rules for me/my rules for you – what you would do if you were him…
My/. My rules for me/who cares - you’re sure about this and it doesn’t matter for others
No/My no rules for me/my rules for you – now that you have been informed about what’s expected, you can pass that along
My/Your my rules for me/your rules for you – you know what to do and you want to leave it to others to decide for themselves
Q4a. Convincer – “how do you know when someone else is good at their work?”
See look, show, perspective, image, clear, light up
Hear talk, listen, wonder, say, question
Read read reports, needed it on paper
Do touch, feel, grasp, solid, sensitive, test it out
Q4b. “How many times do you have to (see, hear, read, do) that to be convinced they are good?
Number of examples use the number they give you
Automatic you can assume, benefit of the doubt, decide fast, right now
Consistent try it, each time, every time
Period of time match period of time
Taken from NLP’s Meta Model, ‘Language and Behaviour profiling’ or LAB profiling for short, is a series of questions designed to elicit peoples motivational patterns and behaviours from the language they use. Once you know a series of simple questions, you can then put them into casual conversation. The secret to LAB profiling is listening to HOW people answer the questions as much as WHAT they talk about. Once you know the words that can influence and motivate a person you can use these in your NLP/Coaching session with them to encourage them to achieve their goals.
The following example questions are designed for clients discussing their career and can be changed for different goals.
Motivational Traits: How to trigger motivation and the language to use to capture people’s interest.
Proactive/Reactive - no question for this level
Proactive Action, Do-It, Why Wait? - Short Crisp sentences
Reactive Try, Think About It, Could Wait, Should do
Q1. Criteria – “What do you want to more of in your Job?”
If given more the one criteria ask which criteria they find most important – you can use the parts integrated exercise to help with this.
Q2. Direction – “why is that Criteria Important” ask 3 times
Towards Attain, Gain, Achieve, Get, include, Goal
Away Avoid, Exclude, Recognise Problems, away from
Q3. Source – “How do you know when you will have done a good job?”
Internal Knows within self, I feel it, I just know
External Told by others, Can see it on people’s faces, Facts and figures to prove it
Q4. Reason - “Why did you choose (your current role)”
Options Criteria, choice, possibilities, variety
Procedures Story, how, necessary, didn’t choose
Q5. Decision Factors – “what is the relationship between this job and your last job”
Sameness Sameness, No change
Sameness with exception More, better, comparisons
Difference Change, new, unique
Sameness with exception and difference new and comparisons
Working Traits: How people deal with information and how to maintain motivation.
Scope – no questions for this level
Specific details, sequences, exactly
General overview, big picture, random order
Attention Direction – no questions for this level
Self short monotone responses – no emotions
Other animated, expressive, automatic responsive, respond to body language
Q1. Stress Responsive – “tell me about a work situation that gave you trouble”
Feeling goes in and stays in feelings
Choice goes in and out of feelings
Thinking doesn’t go in feelings
Q2. Style – “tell me about a work situation that was criteria”
“What did you like about it?”
Independent I, alone, sole responsibility
Proximity In control, others around, in charge
Co-operative we, team, share responsibility
Organisation – use answers from above question
Person people, feelings, reactions, people’s names, will feel good
Things tools, task, ideas, objects, goal, get the job done
Q3. Rule structure – “what is a good way to increase your success at work?” and “what is a good way for someone else to increase their success at work”
My/my my rules for me/my rules for you – what you would do if you were him…
My/. My rules for me/who cares - you’re sure about this and it doesn’t matter for others
No/My no rules for me/my rules for you – now that you have been informed about what’s expected, you can pass that along
My/Your my rules for me/your rules for you – you know what to do and you want to leave it to others to decide for themselves
Q4a. Convincer – “how do you know when someone else is good at their work?”
See look, show, perspective, image, clear, light up
Hear talk, listen, wonder, say, question
Read read reports, needed it on paper
Do touch, feel, grasp, solid, sensitive, test it out
Q4b. “How many times do you have to (see, hear, read, do) that to be convinced they are good?
Number of examples use the number they give you
Automatic you can assume, benefit of the doubt, decide fast, right now
Consistent try it, each time, every time
Period of time match period of time
Tuesday, 18 May 2010
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